Friday, December 30, 2005

REST IN PEACE, JENNIFER THE SHEEP

Considering I am the namesake for this cute little sheep that seemed to irritate the tar out of all of the soldiers in Habbaniyah, I felt obligated to honor her. May she romp through the grassy fields of sheep heaven with a spring in her step and no spray paint in her fur. To read my husband's endearing eulogy, follow the link to J Barne's on the right.

Thursday, December 29, 2005

Are The Holidays Over Yet?


Here I sit, smack dab between Christmas and New Years and unlike most folks caught up in the "Joys of the Season," I am counting down the days until I can go back to work (as a substitute teacher, I don't have to go back to work until at least Jan 2nd). Although being a sub isn't as glamorous as it seems, it's still a DISTRACTION. Yelling at kids for 8 hours a day is a thousand times better than sitting here feeling sorry for myself. That's the one thing that makes me so happy about my husband's deployment. He tells me that it's going so FAST for him, he's so busy all the time that the months have just flown by.
But, as I am writing this, I have decided that I am absolutely NOT going to feel sorry for myself! There are two reasons why:
Reason #1: There are so many other people out there that have it worse off than me. Yeah, my husband's in Iraq. Boo hoo for me. But what about the people that have lost their loved one? And not just in Iraq or Afganistan, but people right here at home. Every day there is a tragedy. Every day you can turn on the news and see another child kidnapped or fatal car accident or a house fire or even a child drowning in a backyard pool. What about the people who are living with a terminal illness? The people who just had their last Christmas and they know it?
Reason #2: We have so many people that care about us. Sgt Wally is thousands of miles away, but my father, sister, brother, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and the greatest set of in-laws anyone could ask for are all right here for me (by the way, that adorable lil Shih Tzu is the newest addition to my father & step-mother in-law's family!). I am easily stressed, and Christmas is the mother of all stressors! We have a thousands places to go, and not enough hours to do it! Who can we move to Christmas Eve? What presents go to whose house? Should we buy for him? Do NOT let me buy another present for my sister! But then I remind myself of people who are completely alone. There are so many out there who don't have any family, no one to visit on Christmas. They say that suicide rates are the highest during the holidays. I thank God everyday for what I do have. I have a great family, wonderful friends, and a husband that "lovesh" me to the extent of making almost every guy he knows gag. He may be far away right now, but I know that he will be coming home and we have the rest of our lives to make a beautiful family together. I am the luckiest woman on Earth.

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

Wally's Wife's First Blog


OK, I'm getting the hang of this now. So let me tell you what it's like to be the wife of a soldier. I have been married just short of three years to the most wonderful man on earth. He's one of those guys that still opens the car door for his girl, even though he's got the ring on her finger and he doesn't need to impress her anymore. This wonderful man knew me 6 months before he found out he was getting deployed to Kosovo, got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife. After enduring one deployment, he spent 11 months home with me before he was called up again, this time for Iraq. We are closing in on a year since he left our home for the second time, and I miss him terribly. Having said that, let me tell you how utterly proud I am of him. My husband has gone days without sleep, months without good food or a good shower (or toilet), and years without a stable home. He spends everyday folding his tall 6' frame into the turret of a Bradley. He doesn't get a weekend, he doesn't get a vacation. Call off sick? I don't think so. Privacy? Yeah, right. Back pain? Headaches? Heartburn? Absolutely. My husband's idea of dinner is a can of Beefaroni, a package of beef jerky or some ramen noodles. He works hard, to the point of exhaustion many days. Despite all of this, he still treks to the three hour phone line to call his wife. He still gets on his laptop every night with weary eyes to chat with me so I know he's alright. And this isn't even why I'm proud of him. I'm proud because I have watched this man mature from the carefree bartender that I first met into the responsible sergeant that he is today. He has seen and done things that I -and most people in our country- could never imagine. I see the effect he and his fellow soldiers have even on this little town. The pride and emotion people feel for these guys is amazing. I am here at home, while the other half of me is thousands of miles away in a place that I will never see. While I am standing in the kitchen washing dishes or sitting at my computer typing this blog, my husband is doing things that I will never imagine. So what can I do? Write to him, be there for him, love him, pray for him. I send him at least one package a week. The folks at the post office know me personally by now! (by the way, let me tell you how much I loathe filling out those stinkin customs forms!) I gather every newspaper clipping and photo I find and stuff them into the giant scrapbook that documents my husband's deployment. The baby is already 6 inches thick and we're only halfway done! I want our children and their children to see what amazing things this man has done. People always tell me, "I don't know how you do it," or "I could never deal with my husband being deployed for this long!" but for me there is no other option. My husband is serving our country. He is doing his job. And I am doing mine.

Tuesday, December 27, 2005


Wally's wife with our 1 1/2 year old nephew! We can't wait to get one of these little buggers! This picture was actually taken the day AFTER Christmas, but he refused to take off the Santa coat!

Christmas back home with Wally's wife and sister.

Christmas in Iraq...just doesn't seem the same.

Wally prepares the Thanksgiving feast in the "kitchen"

Wally's Thanksgiving Cracker Barrel ham! For a vegetarian, his wife does pretty good.

Wally Preparing for Deployment - Camp Shelby, MS Posted by Picasa
Hello from chilly Pennsylvania! This is my first attempt at "blogging", so be patient with me. My husband is currently serving in Iraq and has started blogging with a small group of fellow soldiers. http://jbarnescoffee.blogspot.com/ It looked like loads of fun, so here I am! Posted by Picasa

Howes and Wally - Camp Shelby, MS Posted by Picasa

Wally with Wife on Deployment Day Posted by Picasa